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4 ways to figure Out If you’re With the right Person or Not … and why it doesn’t have to be perfect to be right.

For men and women in the early stages of a relationship—dating, moving in, or even engaged—there’s often one lingering question in the air. Skeptical friends and risk-averse relatives alike may ask it. Your girlfriend’s mother may turn to you at dinner party and ask, “I just have to know…what makes my daughter The One?” Or your bachelorette party may be coming to its sloppy conclusion once your maid-of-honor blurts, “Are you sure you wanna spend the rest of your life with him?”

That question all newly-committed couples face is this:

How do you know you’ve committed to the right person…how do you know?

Happy Couple

The question hangs in the back of some people’s minds as if it’s a great philosophical mystery—on par with “Why are we here?” And adequate explanations are hard to come by.

“Gosh,” you might reply, “I just love her.” Or, “He just gets me.” If you’re not in a sharing mood, a simple, “It’s just a feeling; you know after you know” could get folks off your back.

But how does one know?

As a relationship coach, I’ve worked with dating and engaged couples that are fully sure they want to get married—but couldn’t for the life of them tell you why. Of course, love is inherently hard to define and can be simply confused with lust, infatuation, or friendly relationship. maybe it shouldn’t be shocking that this question lingers.

But despite the very fact that many of the couples I work with can’t articulate their reason for “knowing,” I’ve noticed that there is a common thread among those couples that can’t wait to get down the aisle. they all have this one thing in common—a high level of satisfaction with the relationship.

Satisfaction, in its simplest terms, means that both partners are getting what they need from a relationship. It’s often the basis of that this-is-right feeling that men and women can sense but can’t communicate well. It’s one of the hallmarks of a romantic relationship that’s working.

So, how can satisfaction help you understand if you’re with the right person? Use the four tips below to understand how.

1. Assess how satisfied you feel in your relationship.

This can be challenging. to make the task more manageable, i recommend breaking down the relationship into separate aspects—sex, finances, emotional intimacy, communication, etc.—and then assessing how happy you feel in each one. If you feel highly satisfied within the major aspects of your relationship, you’re more likely with someone who’s an excellent match for you—and hopefully, knowing this can soften any sceptical voice in your head. but even if you discover some important aspects of the relationship are lacking satisfaction, don’t fret; there may be ways to address that…

2. Ask Yourself: have you been more satisfied in another relationship?

If you’ve directly experienced more satisfaction during a previous relationship than you do in your current relationship—for example, you found it much easier to express yourself with an ex than you do with your current partner—it will surely benefit this relationship to tell your partner what may make you feel more satisfied. you will not know exactly what you wish to feel a lot of satisfied, however starting the conversation may be a sensible idea, as such mental comparisons to past relationships will become toxic.

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3. Or can you easily imagine being more satisfied?

If you’ll easily imagine more satisfaction in a particular area of your current relationship, it might very probably benefit the relationship to tell your partner what you wish for. for instance, if you recognize your sex life could be higher with simply a few changes, start making those adjustments happen: this is how you take your relationship to a dreamier state.

4. Determine if you need to do some self-work.

If you can’t easily imagine more satisfaction, but you have got an amorphous, lingering sense of dissatisfaction, this often indicates that you don’t yet know what you need from a relationship—and after all, it’s very hard to urge your needs met if you don’t know what your needs are.

This lingering feeling of dissatisfaction may indicate that you’d benefit from some self-work. It could help to be single for a while to connect with your deeper individual needs and values.

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